One of the things I had a hard time coming to terms with when I was learning to change my way of thinking and fight depression was not allowing moments in time, small moments, moments that may have been seconds long effect my moods. When I was at my lowest point I allowed moments that happened in my life to control me for long periods of time. Not only that but I allowed moments that happened years ago also control me as well. Sometimes these moments were so old I still can’t put a time to them..But I still allowed them power.
It is very strange how we allow a few seconds of bad emotion control our lives. How sometimes 3 or 4 words that come out of a person’s mouth or now a days 3 or 4 words that are texted or emailed to us, we allow them to control our moods, our thoughts and our feelings. We allow a very small moment in time the power to dominate our lives? Why do we give such small moments so much power?
I had a very hard time seeing that this was happening to me because I placed so much value in what was said or written. I allowed it to dominate my thoughts for days and yes years. Learning to beat this was not an easy task. The first step was actually acknowledging that I was allowing this to happen, owning up to the fact that I was letting these moments in time dominate my life. Once I was I able to learn how to see these moments in different ways I was able take there power away. Stop those small moments in time from dominating my entire day or week or month ect.
I remember sitting in a session and my therapist asking me how I was doing? How I was feeling and how my week went. I was feeling very proud because I had been working hard on my home work that I was given. I remember saying my bad days are now gone! I have now turned them into small moments. But not only that I see situations in my life that used to control me as small moments in time as well, I am learning to let those moments go!
With hard work and lots of practice and then more practice I learned how to acknowledge these situations, own my feelings and then see these small moments as nothing more then what they are. Small moments in time which I have the power to either keep alive or let them pass and not control me.
Learning to feel negative emotions and letting them pass is not an easy task for anyone in life never mind someone who struggles with depression or anxiety or any mental health issue. But there are always ways to change. The simplest and easiest thing you can do is write out these moments and the emotions that follow, not only the Bad ones BUT the good ones as well. This is using writing as a therapeutic tool and it is a big help. Getting those bad emotions out of your head and on to paper is huge, it frees you in Mind, Body & Soul.
Writing about good things in your life lifts you’re spirts and makes you feel good about yourself. Learning to write things out is the first step in seeing moments as just moments, Not letting them define your day or week or month. You learn to just see them for what they are and let them go. 2018 is going to be year where I am going to try to live in the moment and help as many people as I can.
Please visit darcypatrick.com and learn more about “Why I Run” and it’s follow up Book “Creative Writing For The Mind, Body & Soul” It is time to see these small moments in our lives just as moments and take the power back and put it back in your hands. Life is for living! and living in the past and allowing small moments to control you is wrong. 2018 is going to be a year of feeling good! Come and join me on this journey! It is going to be exciting!
Darcy Patrick
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