At everyone of my classes or talks that I do, I talked about how I really just wanted to be myself, it was my life long dream. What I wanted to be when I grew up! This also became one of my many affirmations I made for myself as part of my therapy when I started 7 years ago. This affirmation was “I am not afraid to be myself” this affirmation real became the back bone in my life because it really made me think about who I was and what I was doing in my life.
Learning what this affirmation truly met was life changing because it allowed me the opportunity to use every single tool I had, also it gave me the inspiration to change my life and let go of every thing that was holding me back
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No matter what the situation was, saying this affirmation in my head would allow me to slow everything down in my life. I would notice how I was reacting and then I would say to myself, is this something I really like, or want to do? Am I being myself here? Or am I putting myself in a position that I don’t want to be in? What is my heart saying, what is my gut saying? How I am I truly feeling? Am I being myself?
I would give myself the opportunity to look inside and just be me! Use a tool and show myself love. When I learned how to do this, my world changed. Everything that I questioned before that felt strange or uncomfortable felt good. Every single thing that held me back, I found away to deal with in a healthy way. I then moved forward with strength, pride and most importantly with love for myself! I would no longer bend or break, put myself in positions where I lost sleep. Being myself met I was always happy, healthy, I was proud and knew what I was doing was right.
Being me turned out to be easy, loving me was easy, waking up in the morning happy everyday stress free was easy, being honest with myself, with people in my life, being honest at work, radically accepting what was actually go on there was easy.
I was no longer handcuff, I was no longer empty, I was “Not Afraid to be myself “and it was amazing! Being yourself is part of why you are here! Growing into the person you are met to be.
Forgiveness, Radical Acceptance, Changing Your Perspective, Mindfulness, Meditation, Trust, Faith, Setting Boundaries, Positive Beliefs, these are just a few of the tools that you learn to use when you learn to be yourself! You can learn to be yourself just like I have! Be you and only you! Love each step of the way as you grow, each time that you use a tool to slow down your life you are showing yourself love and kindness. There is nothing wrong with that. There is no way that this can be purchased! It is free! Everyone loves to be treated with love and kindness and it always has to start with you first!
Try to remember my affirmation “I am not afraid to be myself” this affirmation can have a deep meaning to everyone, because don’t we all just want to be ourselves.
Darcy Patrick
Author/Public Speaker/ Writing coach
“Only with open conversation can we break the stigma behind depression, let’s start talking and do it together”